what it means to be the girl who changed her mind, and changed her world:

we all do it.

whether silently, or kicking and screaming, crying and pleading...

we all suffer through the phases of heartbreak.

and suffer we may, however, the heartbreaks we endure are probably what help propel us most into who we become. our strength, our judgment, our love for ourselves- these are the things that we lay on the line when we give ourselves to another person, and they are also what we take from the people we are with.

we love many people in our lives, and we love them in different ways. we love our mothers and our brothers, our friends, sisters, and fathers. every pair is connected differently; we are related biologically or by commonality. the people in our families are woven into our lives without a choice- the way that we mold those relationships is solely up to us. relationships with friends and lovers must also be shaped, and without any background other than an intangible connection felt between two people. these relationships are the foundation for who we are, and who we are is ever-changing. we take pieces of each other and we are constantly blended into someone a little bit different each day. though we may break up, lose touch, or move on, what we take from each other remains...this is why heartbreak hurts. the reflection of yourself that you see is a reminder of the places you have been, the people you have been with, and YOU are the result of both of those things.

as we get older and change with the days, we learn how to cope just a little bit better every time. heartbreaks are different, so the hurt never feels any better, but what i have found is the amazing opportunity to recognize the moment where i see today's reflection- the new reflection that is a result of my "past." while a "past" is noted as a complete body of time, i've noticed that when we as individuals reference our past, we aren't referencing the whole thing, but the part that has most recently contributed to our near-future...from yesterday...until tomorrow.

we ask everyone else for instruction on how to proceed, how to get over it, and how to love again...but these questions can only be answered by one person- You. and the reason why? no one knows better than you that this isn't the first time, and it won't be the last. and no one Should know better than you, that love doesn't run out- you once again, have all of your own. and remember this, always: remember that your love is to share...not to give away.